Monthly archives: August 2014

Division I Athletes?

Posted on General, Self-Esteem, Stress August 13, 2014 by Mary & Claire

As we begin thinking about what activities and sports that we are signing our children up for this upcoming school year, consider why we are doing it and if it is going to be beneficial or cause undo stress to our families. We live in a world that has changed since our idealistic days of leaving home in the morning to play with our friends and showing up for dinner that evening. But does it mean that our children need to be busy every hour after school gets out and all weekend long? How much is too much? An article on CNN, Overscheduled Kids, Anxious Parents,” asks the question, “Are we cramming them into too many after-school activities without an eye toward what lessons they’ll learn about themselves?” There is a fear that we are not going to expose our children to everything and therefore possibly miss out on finding what is going to make them the next super star or Division I athlete. What we tend to forget as we get caught up in the mayhem, is that it is important to find what makes our children feel confident, whether it is playing the piano, kicking the soccer ball or building Legos. Feeling confident will then spill over into other areas of their lives. They will want to try new things, have more meaningful relationships and be able to make good, positive decisions. When it is all said and done as parents, what is truly important is what we instill in our children as human beings. What is that going to be?

–Mary & Claire

Self Validation @ Youtube?

Posted on Affirmation, General, Self-Esteem August 3, 2014 by Mary & Claire

We have all asked the question, “Am I pretty” either to ourselves or out loud to others but today some preteen girls are opening up their question to the world through YouTube or other social media platforms. They are asking the world, who does not know them beyond their physical presence, to define them and to give them validation. Yalda T. Uhls, a psychiatrist and researcher with the Children’s Digital Media Center in Los Angeles, recently stated in the NY Times article, Tell Me What You See, Even if It Hurts Me, “Just because they know how to press the right buttons or turn off their geo location doesn’t mean they understand social learning or how the opposite sex thinks.” At this age they also do not understand the consequences of putting themselves out to the world for discussion.
For us at My Remarkable Self, we feel it is important to teach girls what is unique and important about each of them individually. What makes them feel confident, strong and happy? What makes them special? As well as, what are the consequences of their actions? Think about your child or children’s true interests, what makes them happy and let them know that no matter what, they are loved. Start the conversation and be engaged. If we do not help our children try to find and understand what makes them special and unique, who will?

–Mary & Claire