Monthly archives: April 2018

Fortnite and Kids – Yes or No?

Posted on General, Parenting, Technology April 16, 2018 by Mary George

About a month ago my son got in the car after school and said, “Mom, can I get the game Fortnite to play on my phone with my friends?” Having known that this question was possibly coming I was somewhat prepared. 
“Why do you want to play that game?”
His  response – “All my friends are playing it Mom and their parents are letting them play it.”
Unfortunately for him that was not the right response…”As you well know just because everyone else has it and is playing it does not mean that you are going to to do it too. [Deep sigh from him] Why don’t you tell me about it and why you want to play it.” He proceeded to tell me about zombies, the post-apocalyptic world, survival, weapons – using his words wisely, knowing my feelings about these types of games.
“Why don’t we take a look at it together when we get home,” thinking that as soon as we walked in the door that homework followed by sports would come crashing down on us. I was also hoping that this particular game craze would be short-lived and pass before we even had a chance to take a look. 
Not so lucky on my part. As the month has gone by, I have read every article, parent guide, and review on Fornite that I could get my hands on. The persistence of my son has not stopped either. So as of today we have agreed that we will download the game and play it together so I can actually understand what he is doing and what he likes about it. It will give me the opportunity to address certain aspects of the game with him as well. Bottom line, it is about the two of us communicating and understanding what he wants to do online and why. The more he knows that I am involved, the more careful he will be and therefore safer. So far our negotiations continue but I think that we are in a positive place considering our opposing points of view in which we both started.
As you are navigating your way through this latest game craze, here are a few articles and guides that I have found useful though my Fortnite journey that may help you as well:
 —Mary & Claire
 
**My Remarkable Self® is available to facilitate private workshops for parents and / or students on a a variety of topics in your school, work place or home.

I-Parenting of Gen Z

Posted on General, Parenting, Technology April 3, 2018 by Mary George

We do many workshops with parents and children about the differences between our generations regarding technology, social media and how it effects our lives. From the parent perspective, we see it as an add on – something to enhance our daily existence, making our daily life easier because we remember how life was prior to the internet. Our children, however, known as Generation Z or IGen, are digital natives, never knowing life without connectivity. This scares us as parents who are not digital natives because we remember what it is like to make mistakes in our younger years and we see how our children’s mistakes can now be amplified globally in a matter of seconds. In our workshops we discuss what we can do to guide our children through these years as technology has added yet another layer of parenting – a new type of parenting that no other generation has had to grasp and must consistently work to understand with every new version or app. I suppose you could call it “I-Parenting.”
 
In the last month though, we have truly witnessed who Gen Z is becoming. They have shown the world what they as digital natives are all about through their use of social media in the gun control debate. Whatever your political leaning, you cannot deny the incredible way they have shown everyone how their understanding of social media connects them and has power, power to evoke change – power to influence each other, politicians, and corporations. A movement the likes of which has not been seen in 50 years. There is a beauty in it – almost a comfort to know that the kids will be alright. The Millennials scared us but Gen Z has teeth. They know who they are as a generation and they have found their voice and how to use it.  While we do still need to give guidance and make sure that our Gen Z middle schoolers and teenagers have boundaries, parameters and understand the pitfalls of technology and social media, we can be comforted in knowing that our parenting has encouraged and developed this generation of connected thinkers that have a collective understanding of humanity. Maybe the GenXers’ “I-Parenting” are getting it right! 
 —Mary & Claire
 
**My Remarkable Self® is available to facilitate private workshops for parents and / or students on a a variety of topics in your school, work place or home.