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Posted on Conflict Resolution, General, Parenting October 19, 2017 by Mary George

Kindness Matters

National Bullying Prevention Month

In our My Remarkable Self program, we work with children and adults to understand what bullying and cyberbullying is and how to prevent it through interactive  lessons and workshops.In observation of National Bullying Prevention Month we thought that we would share a few ideas and resources to help you be a part of the movement to stop bullying.

 
A few signs that your child is being bullied:
 – Unexplainable injuries
 – Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations;  spending more time alone, either at home or in their room

– Unexpectedly stops using devices

A few signs that you child is a bully:
– Is increasingly aggressive
– Blames others for their problems; Does not accept responsibility for their actions
– Quickly switches screens or hides device when you are close by
Conversation starters:
“What was the best part of your school day? Any bad things?”
“How was lunch today? Who did you sit with? What did you talk about?”
“Other than your [Mom, Dad, parental figure], who do you trust to go to with a problem?”
 
Encourage your children to be inclusive of others by:
– Sitting with someone they do not usually do at lunch (check out the FANTASTIC
“Sit with Us” App designed by a student!)
 -Making friends with someone at school who they don’t know. Many children wish that someone had done that for them at some point.
-Encourage your child to be an UPSTANDER – Bullies have been known to back off when others stand up for victims.
 
Encourage your school to get involved:
StompOutBullying.org has wonderful ideas for teachers and schools as to how to develop empathy, encourage being an upstander, and yearlong activities to get children involved in to bring greater awareness to bullying and cyberbullying.
 
Books to read with your children:
by Trudy Ludwig:
My Secret Bully 
Just Kidding
The Invisible Boy 
Sorry!
Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon by Patty Lovell
The Juice Box Bully by Bob Sornson and Maria Dismondy
Stand up for Yourself & Your Friends – American Girl
Wonder by R. J. Palacio
Real Friends by Shannon Hale and LeUuen Pham

 

—Mary & Claire

 

**My Remarkable Self is available to give workshops, school/camp assemblies and classes for parents, students, educators and businesses. Please contact us at info@myremarkableself.com for further information.**

 

© Kids Empowered LLC and My Remarkable Self® 2017

Are you STRESSED?!?

Posted on General, Stress September 28, 2017 by Mary George

Tips for Stress & Transitions!

The beginning of school is difficult for all of us. We are coming off of a carefree summer with little semblance of a schedule. Our kids are shaking off the cobwebs and trying to acclimate to a new grade, possibly a new school, and the ups and downs of friendships. As parents, we are dealing with their books, uniforms, class schedules, back to school nights, and scheduling activities not to mention being the taxi for them and trying to work! I can feel my anxiety rise just writing about it! So what can we do to deal with the stress that both we and our children have as we transition into a new school year? We thought that we would take a few tips from our Workshops on Stress and Transitions and give them to you as a way to help you deal with this crazy time of the year.
Treat this year as a FRESH START –
  1. Allow for a clean slate to start the school year. Your child may be a different student – even a few months can trigger a huge maturational spurt.  Summer experiences may contribute to new skills or confidences that encourage a new commitment to academics, reduce their fear of making mistakes and therefore make them more willing to think creatively.
  2. Don’t repeat your previous mistakes.  Think back to the previous strategies that you tried to implement. What worked? What did not? Find a time to think about it and possibly try to new approach.
  3. Be open to new possibilities and remain positive. Notice small spurts of maturity and growth and acknowledge them. Success is motivating.
  4. Be appropriately involved. As our children grow and change, how we involve ourselves also evolves. Be aware of your child’s maturity. Every child is different and what is right for one child may not be right for another.
  5. Set up Technology Use contracts with your children – if you both know what the expectations are then it will negate future stress and issues.
  6. COMMUNICATE and BREATHE!
A few good reads…
 
The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Kids: Help for Children to Cope with Stress, Anxiety, and Transitions
 
I Can Handle It – Mindful Mantras for Kids
 

 

—Mary & Claire

 

**My Remarkable Self is available to give workshops, school/camp assemblies and classes for parents, students, educators and businesses. Please contact us at info@myremarkableself.com for further information.**

 

© Kids Empowered LLC and My Remarkable Self® 2017