Culture Change? It’s on us.

Posted on Conflict Resolution, General, Self-Esteem September 10, 2014 by Mary & Claire

At this point I am sure that you are tired and frustrated hearing about the NFL player, Ray Rice and the horrific abuse he committed against his fiancé. It seems to be another act that social media is beating to death without something really and truly being done to stop the abuse. That’s what it should be about right? Not about the NFL cover up, not about football. It should be about what we can do. Ironically this week marks the 20th Anniversary of the Violence Against Women Act.

How do we make this better as a community? What we can take from this experience to teach our children? In the past our culture has put the onus on the woman – what she did to provoke what has happened to her. Let’s teach our daughters that it is not the case. Let’s teach them that they are strong through boosting their self-esteem and confidence. Let’s teach them that their voice matters and that they can stand up for themselves. And let’s not forget, if they are strong and believe in themselves, they will always be confident in saying “No” when it matters. Focus on what they do well and encourage it, celebrate it. Their strength will keep them safe. They are the future and they can make change occur if they have the tools to do it. Making people aware is what changes the culture. Let’s help our children do it. @MyRemarkableSlf #MyRemarkablSlf #selfesteem #WhyIStayed

–Mary & Claire

Upcoming classes and events – Fall 2014

Posted on General September 5, 2014 by Mary & Claire

Me, Myself and I – Fall After School classes at Midland and Milton Schools Rye, NYJoin us as we role-play, create, play games, talk and talk some more with old friends and new. Self-esteem, Feelings, Friendship and Communication experiential classes for girls.
**Check out the Midland Express and Milton Bugle to register!**

Ivivva & My Remarkable Self – October 3rd, 6:30-8:00pm, The Westchester Mall
Join My Remarkable Self and Ivivva as we explore Self-Esteem – Understanding Self. The importance of understanding, cultivating and nurturing self-esteem through discussion and fun hands on activities.
Girls ages 6-16
RSVP by 9/26/14 to:

NEW!! Parent Support Groups
Year round parent support groups – Wednesday evenings 7:00-8:30pm, Rye Recreation, Rye, NY
Join My Remarkable Self in our parenting support groups – an open forum professionally facilitated where parents can discuss pressing topics and issues at hand. Take some time for yourself and connect with other local parents.
Claire Neary and Kerri Winderman along with other trained professionals will lead discussions and provide valuable resources.
Pricing: Package of 8 sessions is $240 or $40 per session. Payment and sign up required ahead of time.
Sign up by contacting us at:


October 1, 7:00-8:30pm: Transitions and Stress – How do you handle your children’s new schedule and responsibilities? How do you help your children learn to handle their new schedule? The truth is facing new obstacles creates new possibilities. How do we teach our children to overcome the obstacles and embrace the possibilities?

November 5, 7:00 -8:30pm: Parenting Style – One size doesn’t fit all
Professionally facilitated by local psychologist and Rye mom Sasha Collins Blackwell.*

December 3: Maturation and Development – Ages and stages
Professionally facilitated by local psychologist and Rye mom Sasha Collins Blackwell.*

January 7: School testing – Managing your child’s emotional well being in preparation for State mandated standardized tests.

February 4: Friendships – Our expectations versus our children’s.

March 4: Communication – Styles and techniques.

April 8: Technology and Your Child – Today technology is ever present in our children’s lives for both the positive and negative. How do we establish a healthy guidelines to manage technology in their lives?

May 6: Change – Moving Forward – Change can be hard – managing expectations as your children approach the end of the school year, losing friends, making new ones, experiencing camp and new opportunities for growth.

* Sasha Collins Blackwell, Ph.D., NCSP is a licensed psychologist in New York State and a Nationally Certified School Psychologist. She received her doctorate in Educational Psychology with a specialization in School Psychology from The Graduate Center of the City University of New York and her Bachelors of Arts from New York University. In 2010 she did post-doctoral training at Adelphi University Institute for Parenting. She has worked in a number of educational, clinical and academic settings, most recently in curriculum development and solution-focused parent consultation to foster children’s positive developmental, academic, behavioral and socio-emotional outcomes.