Archive for Conflict Resolution

Haters Hate

Posted on Bullying, Conflict Resolution, Feelings, General October 29, 2014 by Mary & Claire

“There is no excuse for a culture of hate, and no excuse for a culture of hate includes hating bullies. Don’t become them.”Neil Gaiman

Recently a group of celebrities came together to create a video for an anti-bullying campaign from Bystander Revolution encouraging teenagers to break the bullying cycle. The idea of the campaign is a very different perspective on Bulllying than we normally think about. It focuses on the bully, and how they too need empathy, love and friendship, not hate. If they are shown these feelings then it will stop them rather than perpetuate the cycle. Bystander Revolution states, “the campaign, which crowdsources simple anti-bullying solutions from teens and celebs, suggests that when teens target those who have previously targeted them, the situation is only made worse. The ideal way to respond to bullies is with disarming kindness and understanding.”
Think back to times where someone has hurt you and you think to yourself, “Oh, if I had only said this,” or you decide to seek some kind of revenge on them in response to their hurtful actions. We see it all of the time in movies, plays and books which focuses on this cycle because it is such a part of our lives. Our children deal with it regularly too when someone is repeatedly being mean to them. How do we teach them to deal with it? Do we tell them to call the bully a name or hit back? Have we taught them that they are not strong if they use words and seek help? Take a moment and think what you do. Would we break the cycle if we chose to be kind to the bully rather than trying to hurt them back?  Watch the video and let us know what you think….  @MyRemarkableSelf.

#myremarkableslf, #stopbullying

 

–Mary & Claire

Footprints in CyberSpace

Posted on Conflict Resolution, General, Technology October 17, 2014 by Mary & Claire

The most recent hacking incident with Snapchat once again reminds us that everything that we put online is there to stay regardless of what is promised. Each time we post a picture, make a comment and are tagged in someone else’s post or blog, our digital footprint is increasingly cemented. As adults we have the ability to see beyond the immediate and recognize the consequences of our online actions but as smartphones and unsupervised internet access is given at younger ages, our children do not have the vision or ability to understand that what they put out there can effect their ability to get into college or even get a job one day. In our My Remarkable Self classes, we work with children through various activities to explain how their actions, whether in the classroom, on the playground or at home, will effect them and how these actions and their choices, both positive and negative, lead to consequences. It is no different in the digital world. The more we can work with our children to try to help them understand consequences both in the real world and the cyber world, hopefully they will begin to understand.

Today many schools are working with children as young as elementary school to create a positive online presence through online portfolios, or if they are aspiring artists, posting their work on sites such as Pintrest. Actors, Athletes and Musicians can create YouTube videos of their skills. It is a way to present a positive image of themselves, to show off their personality, their life and their work. This will follow them as they try to apply to colleges and try to get jobs one day. It is a simple as a Google search.

There are many ways that we can help our children use the Internet to their advantage both now and for their future. It just takes our time (which is limited for all of us) and focus to stay up to date so we can work with them. As parents, we try hard to teach our children right from wrong, instill good values and teach them how hard work will pay off in the end. It would be terrible to think that in one instant, with one click without their understanding of what they are doing, that they can jeopardize their future. #onlinesafety #stopcyberbullying

—Mary & Claire