“There is no excuse for a culture of hate, and no excuse for a culture of hate includes hating bullies. Don’t become them.” —Neil Gaiman
Recently a group of celebrities came together to create a video for an anti-bullying campaign from Bystander Revolution encouraging teenagers to break the bullying cycle. The idea of the campaign is a very different perspective on Bulllying than we normally think about. It focuses on the bully, and how they too need empathy, love and friendship, not hate. If they are shown these feelings then it will stop them rather than perpetuate the cycle. Bystander Revolution states, “the campaign, which crowdsources simple anti-bullying solutions from teens and celebs, suggests that when teens target those who have previously targeted them, the situation is only made worse. The ideal way to respond to bullies is with disarming kindness and understanding.”
Think back to times where someone has hurt you and you think to yourself, “Oh, if I had only said this,” or you decide to seek some kind of revenge on them in response to their hurtful actions. We see it all of the time in movies, plays and books which focuses on this cycle because it is such a part of our lives. Our children deal with it regularly too when someone is repeatedly being mean to them. How do we teach them to deal with it? Do we tell them to call the bully a name or hit back? Have we taught them that they are not strong if they use words and seek help? Take a moment and think what you do. Would we break the cycle if we chose to be kind to the bully rather than trying to hurt them back? Watch the video and let us know what you think…. @MyRemarkableSelf.
–Mary & Claire