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5 Strategies to a Smooth Transition

Posted on General, Parenting, Stress May 31, 2019 by Mary George

A less anxiety-ridden adjustment to College

Stress and anxiety can be paralyzing and an emotional roller coaster especially for our teenagers as they make the leap to college. For many it is the first time that they have left home and are no longer under the watchful eye of an adult. They immediately have quite a significant amount of responsibility put upon them coupled with no longer having day to day interactions with their friends that have supported them throughout their high school years. To help combat the stress and anxiety that they will feel, here are 5 strategies to help them make a smooth, less anxiety-ridden adjustment to college life. These are wonderful points of discussion to sit down and go through with your young adult.

1.Know your academic strengths and unique qualities

Remember who you are and your unique qualities and talents that make you special. Take those with you and embrace them as you gain more independence. If it is helpful, write them down and put it in a place that you will see and read everyday as a reminder to yourself. 

Knowing where your academic strengths lie and choosing classes in these areas will help as you are initially getting used to a new place, schedule, and managing your time. Do you prefer to write papers or take multiple choice tests? Check the requirements of specific classes to help guide you. Maybe you are not a morning person – think before deciding to take an 8 am class.

2. Trust your inner voice  

While you have been maturing and trusting who you are as a leader in your high school, the uncertainty of a new setting and new life can make you question your confidence and the decisions that you make. Remember your special inner voice that has guided you and will continue to guide if you listen carefully. 

3. Do not repeat previous mistakes

Throughout your high school years there have been many times that you have made mistakes – waited until the 11th hour to study for an exam or had a lofty goal to get involved in 4 clubs which spread you too thin. Reflect on these times, think about what your needs are to create balance and put into place strategies and set realistic goals that will lessen your stress. 

4. Know who you can call

Think about the amazing friends that have supported you along your journey. They will still be there for you. You can live in different places, experience different things but you can come back together and the foundation of your friendship will still there. 

Trusted friends who can be supportive are incredibly important not only throughout your life but as you transition into college. Know who you can call, Facetime, and/or talk to whenever you need someone. Ask for help. As you move on there will be situations that arise in which you will feel lost. Remember that it is okay to ask for help. It is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of intelligence. Ask for it, you are not alone. Failure will occur, you are living and learning, it is a part of life. Grow from the experience and forgive yourself. 

5. Remain positive and be open to new possibilities

College is a time to explore and learn about different people, ideas, and subjects. Staying positive about your experience and being open to new possibilities can lead you to a passion that you may never have known about.  Getting involved in clubs or groups are a wonderful way to meet others that may share similar interests. 

Again knowing who you are, what you are capable of, and listening to your inner voice will keep you moving in the right direction and help you make positive decisions as you move on to college. 

—Mary & Claire

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Fortnite and Kids – Yes or No?

Posted on General, Parenting, Technology April 16, 2018 by Mary George

About a month ago my son got in the car after school and said, “Mom, can I get the game Fortnite to play on my phone with my friends?” Having known that this question was possibly coming I was somewhat prepared. 
“Why do you want to play that game?”
His  response – “All my friends are playing it Mom and their parents are letting them play it.”
Unfortunately for him that was not the right response…”As you well know just because everyone else has it and is playing it does not mean that you are going to to do it too. [Deep sigh from him] Why don’t you tell me about it and why you want to play it.” He proceeded to tell me about zombies, the post-apocalyptic world, survival, weapons – using his words wisely, knowing my feelings about these types of games.
“Why don’t we take a look at it together when we get home,” thinking that as soon as we walked in the door that homework followed by sports would come crashing down on us. I was also hoping that this particular game craze would be short-lived and pass before we even had a chance to take a look. 
Not so lucky on my part. As the month has gone by, I have read every article, parent guide, and review on Fornite that I could get my hands on. The persistence of my son has not stopped either. So as of today we have agreed that we will download the game and play it together so I can actually understand what he is doing and what he likes about it. It will give me the opportunity to address certain aspects of the game with him as well. Bottom line, it is about the two of us communicating and understanding what he wants to do online and why. The more he knows that I am involved, the more careful he will be and therefore safer. So far our negotiations continue but I think that we are in a positive place considering our opposing points of view in which we both started.
As you are navigating your way through this latest game craze, here are a few articles and guides that I have found useful though my Fortnite journey that may help you as well:
 —Mary & Claire
 
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