Archive for Puberty

“The Question”

Posted on Communication, Feelings, General, Parenting, Puberty June 8, 2015 by Mary George

My 3rd grader came home the other day from playing outside with neighborhood friends and asked his Father, “Dad, what is sex?” Needless to say shock was the first reaction since it was our 3RD GRADER!! My husband looked at me as the impact of the question lingered and I mouthed, “You have to tell him.” And he did – just the basics that are important to know at this point in his life. It is amazing how young our children are now when they start talking and asking about sex and puberty. Maybe we did too but the thought of asking my parents seemed much more taboo than it is today.

After thinking about our son’s question, I was happy as a parent that he was comfortable coming to us and that now he was going to know the correct information, not something that a friend at school had cobbled together and told him. I would rather him be knowledgeable than not and feel comfortable coming to us about these things. Puberty and sex are human nature and how our body works first and foremost should be taught and understood. I want my kids to constantly ask my husband and me questions so they have the correct information and so they can be safe as they grow up. And if for some reason I do not know enough or feel that someone else can help teach my children or me, I will absolutely seek them out.

There is no shame in seeking help.

As it is with everything concerning our children, we need to learn and stay on top of what our children are doing. Let our generation create and sustain the conversation with our children and take out the uneasiness.

#myremarkableself #teachsexeducation #createtheconversation


The NEW Puberty

Posted on Feelings, General, Parenting, Puberty, Self-Esteem December 8, 2014 by Mary & Claire

Puberty – just the word can take you back to when you were going through it. The body changes, the awkwardness, the feelings, and the lack of understanding of what was going on with your body was so uncomfortable. Today it seems our children are starting to go through puberty at younger and younger ages due to numerous factors. Doctors Julianna Deardorff and Louise Greenspan have written a book called The New Puberty in which they investigate and discuss a long-term study of puberty. Their research in The New Puberty looks at the percentage of girls who are going through early puberty, the environmental, biological and socioeconomic factors that influence when puberty begins, and whether early puberty is linked with an increased risk of breast cancer. They have been following 444 girls from the San Francisco Bay area since 2005, when the girls were 6 to 8 years old. The study is funded by the National Cancer Institute and the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences. In a recent interview with NPR, Julianna Deardorff tells Fresh Air‘s Terry Gross, “It has been established that girls who enter puberty earlier are more likely to have symptoms of anxiety, higher levels of depression, initiate sex earlier and sexual behaviors earlier.” They also look at and discuss how difficult it can be on a young girl to go through puberty at such a young age and how imperative it is for her to have parental support. What we can do is talk to our children about what is happening. Keep an open line of communication with them and pay attention to their actions. Know what they are doing online and who they are talking to. Notice whether or not they seem withdrawn or anxious. Our children need our support and they need to understand that puberty is natural regardless of what age it occurs. As we always say – Talk, talk, talk and talk some more!! To read the interview and get more information about their study, go to NPR, How Girls Are Developing Earlier In An Age Of ‘New Puberty.’

Please join us for our upcoming Puberty class:

Taking Care Of Me
Puberty Class for Girls Ages 9-12
Wednesday December 17th
4:00pm – 6:00pm
Rye Recreation

Contact us at to register. Prior registration is required.


—Mary & Claire