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Better Person

Posted on Affirmation, General, Parenting, Self-Esteem January 1, 2018 by Mary George

Every year we give you our thoughts as to making resolutions for ourselves and our children. This year we were excited (and a bit surprised!) to see a recent poll that “being a better person”tops the list of most people’s resolutions for 2018. But what does does “being a better person” actually mean? To us, being a better person means looking inside of yourself and determining what values are important to you and what will make positive change for you as well as others.
 
It has been proven that virtues such as gratitude and giving improve our overall well being and satisfaction both within our lives and for others. Empathy, compassion and acts of kindness – the Golden Rule – also fall into this category. Maybe if we all worked towards embodying these virtues our present society would become more a positive, kind environment. Just imagine how teaching and developing these values in our children could change the world! At My Remarkable Self we strive to teach these invaluable life lessons in every class, workshop and presentation that we give. In addition to working with our students, we work with parents, educators and community groups and give them tools to help our children and ourselves navigate our ever changing world.
 
So as you look forward to 2018, think about what it takes to help us and our children be better people. I can tell you that my word for the year (see last year’s blog) is “better!” Happy New Year!!
 
Here are our workshops that are tailored to meet the needs of a school, corporate, community or private group. Please reach out to us today! 
 
Navigating Technology & Social Media with Your Child
Mother/Daughter Relationships
Communication & Your Child
Self-Esteem & Leadership*
Stress & Transitions
Friendship and the Power of Words*
Teasing & Bullying*
Kik, Snapchat and Insta – What do you know about Social Media and being a responsible digital citizen?*
Shattering the Glass Ceiling (aimed for high school girls grades 9-12)*
Taking Care of Me – Puberty & Hygiene (for both boys & girls)*
* Specifically aimed for students, can be tailored according to age.
 
–Mary & Claire
 
**My Remarkable Self® is available to give workshops, school/camp assemblies and classes for parents, students, educators and businesses.** 

#PedestalEffect

Posted on General, Self-Esteem February 24, 2017 by Mary George

In our classes and workshops with children and teens, we intentionally discuss with them the power of words. How words can hurt, how words can lift one up, how words can break one down, and how words can make change. So when I was reading the news this morning and heard that yet once again a controversial, professional athlete, Jameis Winston, had spoken to a group of children and lifted a few up and put others down, I was truly disappointed. My disappointment stems not only from the person telling the boys that they are strong and telling the girls to sit down as they should be quiet and polite, but also from who we as a culture are looking up to and showing our children who look up to. I am deeming this the #PedestalEffect. Our Culture has developed in such a way that we look up to celebrities and sports figures and think that they are going to be our guide to a better life. Think about it for a second, the Kardashian’s have created a selfie culture which has changed the way people portray themselves. We follow and watch every move that the famous make and we aspire to be like them regardless of what they stand for. What is it that makes us think that these celebrities and sports figures are so much better than who and what we are as people? One can argue that they are successful but then define success for me. Is success only money? Is it talent? Is it who has the best body or goes on the best trips? What are we teaching our children about success and self worth? What did Jameis Winston’s words convey to the boys and girls that he was speaking to? 
 
These are Winston’s words that he said to the children:
 
But all my boys, stand up. We strong, right? We strong! We strong, right? All my boys, tell me one time: I can do anything I put my mind to. A lot of boys aren’t supposed to be soft-spoken. You know what I’m saying? One day y’all are going to have a very deep voice like this (in deep voice). One day, you’ll have a very, very deep voice. …But the ladies ― they’re supposed to be silent, polite, gentle. My men, my men supposed to be strong. I want y’all to tell me what the third rule of life is: I can do anything I put my mind to. Scream it!
 
This is where we are as a culture and who we allow to be our children’s role models. ALL children need to be validated and told that they are strong and shown that they are equal, not just one gender or race.  There are real heroes out there that we as parents and adults can choose to influence our children and the words that are used MATTER. During this same school assembly one little girl turned to her teacher and asked, “Aren’t I strong?” In one moment, this influential person made a little girl question her self worth. When one experiences that self doubt, where does it lead? What happens to the self confidence and strength that child had prior to being told to sit down and be quiet because that is your place? 
 
Lets make a choice as a culture to stop the #PedestalEffect and choose who influences all of our children wisely. It is on us to make them believe that they can be the best if they put their minds to it.
#PedestalEffect #MyRemarkableSelf
 
—Mary & Claire
 

**My Remarkable Self is available to give workshops, school/camp assemblies and classes for parents, students, educators and businesses. Please contact us at info@myremarkableself.com for further information.**

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